Many of you are probably wondering why I have the poll question about coed bridal and baby showers. Well, lately Jacob's family has been doing them and I wanted to see what the general opinion was about them. I think they can be fun BUT I really enjoy the girls only ones because then you can get a little silly without the boys (although in Utah, it never really gets that crazy). I also don't like them because a lot of guys resist wanting to go anyway. And also, it makes it seem like it's a couples only type deal because what guy is honestly going to go to one by himself without a girl?
Mind you, we have had fun at said showers, but we also have had rude and hurtful things said to us at each of them.
At the first one, a guy said, "You guys are married? You don't even act like it. You don't even act like you love each other. I don't know how you two got together." Really? Who says that? And he wasn't even joking. I thought he might be, but nope, he was totally serious!
At the second one, I was eight months pregnant, had just worked at 630-3 shift (meaning I had to get up at 530), and was tired. Don't you think that at eight months pregnant and having to get up at 530 in the morning gives me the right to be tired and maybe even yawn a few times? Apparently not. Well, I was sitting on the couch watching them open presents, and as exciting as that can be, I yawned. I yawned because I was tired, not because I was bored. Apparently one of the ladies thought I was just too bored and felt like she needed to say something. From across the room, she says, "I'm sorry, are we boring you?" Excuse me? I'm freaking 8 months pregnant and running on little sleep. I'm sorry if I yawned!!! Also, I remember there were 3 of us who were pregnant at that shower. When one of the pregnant girls got up from her soft seat, one of the guys went over and took it. When she came back she said she wanted the seat back. He said, "I've got arthritis". Well, I'm sorry you've got arthritis but I'm pretty sure pregnancy trumps that one. I was so glad when the girl's husband said, "Well, she's pregnant so get out of that seat." I just remember how irked I was at that kid. It probably didn't help that my pregnancy hormones were raging. I'm pretty sure I cried the whole drive home after that shower and the previous one due to the things that were said to me.
Needless to say, these things have given me a not-so-positive memory and opinion of these showers. And, for future reference, when I get sisters in law, my mother in law and I will be the ones planning the showers, and we will not be doing co-ed showers.
So...what do you think?
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We did one of our wedding showers that way. My mom's side of the family all came (adults and kids), had dinner and opened gifts. I liked it (not necessarily better but not worst either). It was fun to open gifts with Russ. Now he knows the pressure of acting excited about every gift. (You know what I mean, right? Even if you are excited about the gift, you feel this need to make sure they know how much you love it so you have to totally gush over everyone. I think opening gifts in front of people is a lot of pressure.) I didn't vote on your poll since none of the answers were for people who have had one. Well, I am just babbling now. :)
We had some family baby showers but they were mainly just bring gifts and everyone gets to eat. I think Dylan, Savannah, and Anna Laura at the same time. I think this was the exception to the rule.
Bridal Showers NO WAY. I don't want to be there. I wouldn't want the women family members at the Bachelor party.
Baby Showers, the first baby was a no way because all of Nanette's friends and family (Women ones) came and did their thing.
The baby showers after that were just close family ones and it was more of just an excuse to get together as a family.
Typically, guys don't want to play stupid games like guess what is in the diaper and race to eat baby food.
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